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Echoes of Praise

“Not to be cheered by praise, not to be grieved by blame, but to know thoroughly one’s own virtues or powers are the characteristics of an excellent man.” Satchel Paige

“Praise” is one of the more dangerous attributes even when given free of choice has the potential to destroy a person, settling on one slowly and like rust begins to erode. Then a person who was once mentally and emotionally strong becomes dependent on praise, craving for it.

“You can’t let praise or criticism get to you. It’s a weakness to get caught up in either one.” John Wooden

When the “words of praise” are not heard; one begins to look for them everywhere, at times compromising on one’s standards, abilities and perfection just to hear those words. Then efforts are made to hear those words to boost the self vanity, to the extent that one fails to acknowledge the actions, consequences and reality behind the empty words of praise.

“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” Norman Vincent Peale

When there is no praise, the mood then deteriorates, things get worse; all because “no one appreciates me.” As a result, the person is not working from the heart with the fruits of the Spirit in mind. Work, interactions and character becomes a need to appease one’s self-esteem, accumulate more pleasant opinions about himself and not an honest reflection of one’s true being. The opinions of other people though momentary, changes our essence.

“The biggest challenge is to not be affected by praise because a lot of it is not from the heart. Being true to yourself about your strengths and weaknesses, when everyone out there has a strong opinion and wants to give advice, is another challenge.” Tena Desae

It is sad if we do good deeds only for the sake of this short flash – “I was praised.” For woe beckons to the man who spends his strength, effort and energy to earn the approval of others. One of the terrible sins is vanity, because after vanity and praise is lost a person is left with nothing.

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Of Candlemas and New Beginnings

“When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” (John 8:12)

With Candle-mas service and celebration all over the world, the end of the Christmas season has been officially marked. Candlemas (or Candlemass) is known as the Feast of the Presentation of Our Lord Jesus and the Feast of the Purification of the Blessed Virgin Mary, commemorating the presentation of Jesus at the Temple as based on the Jewish custom. It falls on February 2, which is traditionally the 40th day of the Christmas–Epiphany season. For those who of us who haven’t removed the Christmas decorations on Twelfth Night (Epiphany Eve), Candlemas is the day when one can take them down.

In pre-Christian times, this day was known as the ‘Feast of Lights’ and celebrated the increase strength of the life-giving sun as winter gave way to spring. Later during the Christian era, this date marked the presentation of Christ to the temple. It was the day of the year when all the candles, that were used in the church during the coming year, were brought and blessed; thereby marking it as the Festival Day (or ‘mass’) of the Candles. In those days, candles were important not only because there was no electric lights; but were thought to be of protection against plague and illness and famine. As the years progressed; on Candlemas, the service is led by prayers and the candles used are blessed; serving as a symbol of Christ, who referred to himself as the Light of the World.

Falling almost in the middle of Winter Solstice and Spring Equinox, Candlemas is considered to be time for fresh start. Each country has their own set of customs, celebrations and service. One can decide to honour this day by the beginning of doing something new, breaking an old habit, spending quality time and care for dear ones or devoting energy, time and steps for self-improvement.
For This is a simple way to make life a little better for one and for those touching our life in one aspect or other.

Candlemas Verse 

When New Year’s Day is past and gone;
Christmas is with some people done;
But further some will it extend,
And at Twelfth Day their Christmas end.
Some people stretch it further yet,
At Candlemas they finish it.
The gentry carry it further still
And finish it just when they will;
They drink good wine and eat good cheer
And keep their Christmas all the year.

– From Colonial Williamsburg, 18th century

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Nurture the Patience

In this instantaneous times that we are a part of, somewhere along the way we began expecting all the events and happenings to occur in a set sequence, allotting each step a limited amount of time set by us. Alas, as nature has time and again shown, the timeline that man sets can never be followed to a “T”. Instead both time and nature have taught mankind the essential art of patience.

Take for instance, the Chinese Bamboo Tree, it takes 5 years for it to reach the 80 feet height in six weeks. In the first year, despite the nurturing through water, sunlight and rich fertile soil; there is no visible sign of growth. Continuing on for three to four years; there is no evidence of the plant growing above the ground. Yet when it reaches its’ magnificent height during the fifth, the tree neither breaks nor bends as its’ strong root system which it has been growing for the past four years holds it firm and strong. Had the tree not developed a strong unseen foundation it could not have sustained its life as it grew. There are many more lessons that nature and God’s creations teach us, from caterpillar to butterflies, ugly ducklings to graceful swans, the radiance of sunflower and the rise of the green shoots through the end of the winter to mark spring.

Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come. Robert H. Schuller

Like nature, those who set their pace with patience find great rewards and inner peace. Contrary to the popular notion, patience doesn’t imply the ability to simply endure or wait, neither it is a humiliation nor a compromise of one’s beliefs, desires or ambitions.

Patience is the ability to maintain the equanimity of the spirit in those circumstances that interfere with the inner peace or composure. Patience also epitomizes the behaviour while we are waiting. Patience is the ability to go towards the goal, strengthening perseverance especially when there are various obstacles on the way. Patience is the ability to maintain a joyful spirit in the midst of difficulties, troubles and sadness. Patience is there when victorious and overcoming the hurdles. Patience adopts the form of courage in face of trials, temptations and tempest. This is what true patience encompasses.

I have seen many storms in my life. Most storms have caught me by surprise, so I had to learn very quickly to look further and understand that I am not capable of controlling the weather, to exercise the art of patience and to respect the fury of nature. Paulo Coelho

People who patiently toil towards their dreams and goals, build their character while overcoming adversity and challenge, setting the strong internal foundation to handle success. Meanwhile those who with impatience use the shortcuts to get rich, famous and earn the stamp of being successful, more often discover that they are usually unable to sustain the unearned sudden wealth. For to support true success, the armour of patience, fortitude and perseverance are necessary to don the cloak of inner peace and triumph.

The two most powerful warriors are patience and time. Leo Tolstoy

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To Heart’s Content

“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” Dale Carnegie

Once a lady was talking to a psychologist, where she sadly listed what she did not have. “There are no true friends. There is no good salary. No decent car. Apartments are not good. There is no youth anymore. And there is no hope to have it all someday.”  The plump, pleasant psychologist, straightened his glasses and said complacently, “Of course, you do not have much. And you can continue the list. There is no severe incurable disease. There are no millions of debts. There is no responsibility for someone, for a sick relative or a weak-minded old man. There is no physical disfigurement and no hump. And there is no disability. A lot of things you do not have. And, if you write down what you do not have, then your mood will improve immediately. And hope will appear that this is not only not, but will not.” And the lady thought in her mind counted and smiled.

So, we have a lot of things. Do not need. And everything else can be earned, improved, received as a gift or just get by temporarily. Nothing wrong. The main thing is to be alive and well. And that loved ones were alive and well. And there was no bad. And this is already good. With this, we begin, as they say, the enumeration of what we do not have … Anna

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough”  Oprah Winfrey

Many of us have been in the shoes of the lady above, where we were so caught up in the let-downs that we thought we had, forgetting to enjoy the better moments and what we were blessed with. Like the above account from one of my social networking pages reminded me, we discover the joy of living only when we learn to be content. This is no easy feat as each time we turn around or look into any direction, there would be a million comments made, comparisons and disappointments. Yet when we learn to appreciate, enjoy and thank for what we have; we realize that we are blessed in many special ways that we can’t count.

There is a fine distinction in being content or being stuck in a rut and stagnating as well as the yearning to grow. Being content doesn’t imply that you don’t desire more or than you don’t want to grow and progress; it simply means that you’re thankful for what is there at present and patiently working for what is yet to come. For contentment and happiness go hand in hand, with the latter coming to only those who appreciate and use what they have. As quoted, “Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want but the realization of how much you already have.” (Anonymous) We learn to be happy when we stop looking around. Instead when we focus our time, energy and thoughts on the bunch of “haves”, we realize that inner peace was always there within us and happiness was not lurking round the corner but residing in us all the time.

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Pleasant to Heal

This is a story that I had come across on my social network pages and it’s too good to not share. It echoes the words running through the book of Proverbs.  “Pleasant words – a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones” (Proverbs 16:24) 

Sister Faina Ranevskaya, Isabella, lived in Paris. Due to a number of circumstances she moved to the Soviet Union. On the very first day of the visit, despite the summer heat, Isabella pulled on the cotton-stockings, wore a silk coat, gloves, a hat, sprinkled herself with Chanel, and told her sister: 
– Fainochka, – I go to a butcher’s shop, buy bon-fillet and I’ll cook dinner. 
– Do not! Ranevskaya exclaimed in horror. There was a flourishing deficit and eternal lines in the country. She understood how this would affect the unprepared resident of Paris. 
– Do not! – I’ll buy it myself! 
“Fainochka, you must be able to choose a bon-fillet, and I can do it,” Isabel said proudly, and headed for the front door. Ranevskaya, like a Panfilov tanker, rushed to cross it. 
– I will go with you! 
– One pound of meat to choose together – this is nonsense! – Sister said and left the apartment. Ranevskaya made her last attempt to save her sister from the shock of Soviet reality: 
– But you do not know where our stores are! 
She turned and with a condescending smile reproached: 
– Do you think I can not find a butcher’s shop? 
And hid in the elevator.
Ranevskaya collapsed into a chair, imagining the consequences of the first meeting of a foreign sister with developed Soviet socialism. 
But they say that God helps the holy fools and blissful: just a block later, Isabella Georgievna stumbled upon a small shop, a sign over which she promised “Meat products.” 
She looked inside: the queue was crowded and buzzed, the sweaty butcher threw the cartilages and veins that he had cut off on the scales, calling them meat, and in the cashbox a fat cashier with a tower of dyed hair on his head, like a dog from a booth, periodically barked customers. 
Barreling, sideways, Isabella made her way to the counter and turned to the seller: 
– Good afternoon, monsieur! How are you feeling?
Buyers realized that this circus, and, free, and, as in the freeze-frame, all froze and died down. Even the sweaty butcher did not bring the next portion of “meat products” to the scales. And the former Parisian continued: 
– How do you sleep, monsieur? … If you are suffering from insomnia, try before going to bed take two tablespoons of wine ….. And how are your children, monsieur? You do not punish them? .. 
You can not punish children – you can lose a spiritual connection with them. Do you agree with me, monsieur? 
“Yes,” the bewildered butcher finally exclaimed and nodded in confirmation. 
“I did not doubt it.” You look like my teacher of literature: you have an intellect on your face. 
Not really realizing what exactly is appearing on his face, the butcher wiped sweat from his face just in case.
“Monsieur,” went to Isabella Georgievna, “I need a half pound of bon-fillet.” I hope you have. 
“Yes,” the butcher nodded and ducked into the pantry. He was gone for a long time, obviously, he caught a calf, caught it, stabbed it and cooked a bo-fillet. I returned with a portion of meat that had been weighed and wrapped in paper. 
“Thank you,” Isabel said. And she added: 
“I’ll come to you on Tuesdays and Fridays, at four o’clock in the afternoon.” It suits you? 
“Yes,” the butcher nodded for the third time. 
Paying at the checkout, Isabella Geogievna pleased the fat cashier, pointing at her bleached hair peroxide, twisted on her head in a heavy tower:
“You have a very fashionable hair color, madam, in Paris, all the women are also painted in blondes.” But you’d better dismiss your hair so that curls lay on your shoulders: loose hair, madam, will decorate your affable face. 
The flopped cashier stuck two index fingers into her cheeks and began to stretch them forcefully, trying to smile. 
When, having returned home, Isabella unfolded the packet, Faina Georgievna gasped: she had not seen such fresh meat for a long time, apparently the butcher cut him off from his personal stocks. 
– Bon-fillet must be able to choose! Isabel said proudly.
Since then every Tuesday and every Friday she visited “Meat products”. These days, exactly at four o’clock, the butcher let go of the cashier, closed the store, hung on the door sign “Recount”, put a large antique chair next to the counter, bought in an antique store, seated in him his dear guest, and she told him for hours about him Parisian life, the Louvre, the Eiffel Tower, the Champs Elysees … 
And he, leaning his head on the palm of his hand, listened to everything, listened, listened … And on his face suddenly appeared an unexpected, naive, childish smile … 

– Jacob Alexandrovich Segel  

P. S. The world around us does not change with violence and foul language. It changes with a kind word and respectful attitude to man.   (#biblicalrevelations# bibleyskieotkroveniya #biblicalnotes # bibleyskiezametki)

The way of life according to His Word is to pass on the fruits of the Spirit, not through words alone but through our very actions and deeds. In fact, the way we live describes our faith the best. As St.Paul had addressed in his letter to the Corinthians, “Finding the Way Home [God] comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”( 2 Corinthians 1:4)

 

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Love and Charity

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 
6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 
7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 
9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 
11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 
12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.     13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-13 New International Version (NIV)

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These verses from 1 Corinthians regarding love has been read across various Sundays, bible learning lessons, fellowship meets, family prayers and even during personal time. Although the teachings revolve around the concept of “love”, the echoes of “charity” are not far behind.

Love and charity independently can endure evil and provocation. Yet love with charity drives away resentment, deters angry passions and gives way to tolerance and preserves patience. Charity suppresses envy and neither is turned away by the welfare of her neighbours, rather charity rejoices in them. In fact, love has many faces but as St. Paul says indirectly in his letters that charity is the face of love which never fails but has a permanent, perpetual and ever-lasting grace. The phrase “Charity begins at home” reflects that we don’t have to look far to find her. Charity starts by doing good at home, in the family and neighbourhood. Charity believes in actions and not in words or monetary gains. The real truth lies in the reality that charity should be ingrained in us knowingly or unknowingly, so that the inner peace and grace would be a part of our persona.